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What 2015 taught me …

 

This year has honestly been one of the best years of my life. Mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually I have conquered a lot this year. I did things I never thought I would do, and I’m honestly damn proud of myself for how far I have come as a person. When I was a little girl I use to have this idea and image of what I wanted to look like, and who I wanted to be. I can finally say now that I like who I am becoming, and when I look in the mirror I smile, because I look exactly how I’ve always wanted to look.

When I talk about looks I’m not talking about physically. I’m talking about my vibe, my actual “look.” I grew up with a mother who always appreciated self-expression and individuality. I had a father who instilled strong work ethic, and to never conform to what others want you to be. I like to think I am becoming the perfect mix of the both of them. (more…)

Letter From The Editor: Get What You Deserve

I had the opportunity to write for one of my favorite blogs MyBlackMatters ,which is such a positive platform for Black Women, and I am honored && over the moon that my post was published on their site. Being that this is one of the posts I am most proud of, I wanted to share it with my readers as well. Hope you enjoy reading it, as much as I enjoyed writing it. xoxo

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“ It sounds incredibly platitudinal, but no one will ever be able to love you if you don’t love yourself. What’s beautiful about it is that if you love yourself enough, you don’t need the validation from anyone else.” -Leandra Medine [1]

Making sure you get what you deserve and refusing to settle is critical when it comes to taking charge and maintaining your own happiness. You have to genuinely believe in your worth, in order to ensure that you get what you deserve. Once you get in touch with how valuable you are… its amazing what you won’t put up with. (more…)

What My 20’s has Taught Me Thus Far

I thought it be nice to do a course evaluation on my life from a quarter of a century standpoint. I’m still in my twenties, and the lessons are endless so I’m positive I will be sharing more lessons with you all as time goes on. I was at dinner last night with a few friends and we were all talking about life. Life is always a wonderful concept to discuss, I mean whats not to discuss? The conversation from last night inspired this post. I wanted to share some knowledge that age has thrust upon me. I’m curious to see if you guys agree. (more…)

Thank God for Puberty

For those of you that aren’t acquainted with me yet, my name is KC. Every once in a while, I like to share a more personal story with everyone. I ran across this picture not too long ago and thought I would harp on this for a minute.

Raise your  hand, if you went through some not so appealing times in life… I’ll raise both hands… growing up I definitely went through some stages of awkwardness. I’m glad I did though because from those times I have generated some key characteristic traits and survival skills. In the beginning it was all good… I was an adorable baby, and toddler. Heck, I was a cute kid, and then came the pre-teern years. Boy those were rough. I had acne, I was super skinny, and my eyebrows were in desperate need of professional help. I have always been pigeon-toed, and bowlegged. I still am. I use to hate it, but now it doesn’t bother me, and the crazy thing is later on in life, it became a feature people were attracted to. Weird right ? lol (more…)

11 Signs Of A Genuine Friendship

Friends make the world go round. I know without my friends I would be a lost soul. I’ve had lessons in friendship, experiences with friendship, and I can honesty say that I am in a place where I am content with my circle.

In 1967, The Beatles released a song that is still an anthem for all friendships today: I get by with a little help from my friends.

As we all know, these special relationships do more than just get us by. Friends are our unlicensed therapists. They’re the people who come over when you are about to spazz on the rest of the world. They’re the ones who see us through relationship blunders and changes at work, the ones that talk some sense into us before we catch a case, or end up in jail. If they are really good friends, they might be along for the ride of shenanigans. They are heroes, our sidekicks, our extended family. They are essential to life. Research has also found that friends help us live longer.

Aristotle once described a true friend as a “single soul dwelling in two bodies” — but what differentiates a true, lasting friendship from the other, temporary social bonds? According to Robert Rowney, D.O., a certified psychiatrist and the director of the Cleveland Clinic mood disorder unit, there are certain habits that genuine friends possess, which make them more like family. And it’s these characteristics — and sometimes even tough love — that create that indescribable bond. (more…)

Getting over a Breakup? 11 Ways to Move On…

It’s not me. It’s you.

No… it actually is you.

My last boyfriend was the absolute worse. No… I’m not being mean. I’m not calling him names. I’m not trying to sit up here and slander him. I’m just calling it what it was.

From the time we met, my relationship with my ex was toxic. The relationship was filled with power imbalance, violation of personal values, needing to be “perfect” in order to be loved and a lack of genuine intimacy due to hiding one’s true self. It was sad and miserable. It was like being stuck in a maze that I couldn’t get out off. Breaking up with him was a lot like the Alcoholics Anonymous program I had been through. You need certain steps to fully kick your addiction, eventually you get the right tools to turn your life around. Being in an unhealthy relationship, often times mimics an addiction. Its so bad, but you just can’t kick the habit. Eventually the one sided arguments became draining , his lack of effort or remorse became mentally and emotionally taxing. I just couldn’t do it anymore. The last stunt he pulled was repulsive and it was at this very moment I decided to leave. When I decided to leave , I did the best thing I’ve done for me in awhile … I put me First. (more…)

11 Things You Should Be Thankful For

No. We don’t always get what we want. But consider this: There are people who will never have what you have right now.

It’s the beginning of the year and sometimes it’s easier to dwell on the past, and fall into a pessimist attitude. We have so many things to be thankful for. When you run into some bumps in the road this year, keep some of these things in mind. (more…)

First things First …

Am I being too crazy if I were to say that it’s kind of symbolic in a weird way that I started my blog on Christmas? I am in no way shape or form being biblical about it. I just think its something really cool about my creative juices flowing on Christmas Day. Christmas just symbolizes such purity and freshness to me. I don’t know, I’ve always been peculiar about dates and numbers, so to me Christmas morning is the perfect day to start a blog. I’m wide-awake, and as the year is coming to an end, my mind is running wild. Sometimes I think so much my head starts to hurt. It’s crazy.

It probably would have been really cool to post a picture or something, being that this is my first post. HOWEVER, I hardly know how yo use this thing. I literally woke up an hour ago and decided I wanted to blog. So bare with me… I’m learning as I go. lol

Anyways, this blog is for basically everything. Business ventures, hair, fashion, food, relationship issues, friends… honestly I’m just here to talk about LIFE. I have some main objectives, but I can’t promise that I will stick to a script. I just want to share my life with a few people that might be interested and get some interaction along the way. Sounds harmless.