I wanted to have a serious open conversation with all of you. I wanted to know what you guys(women and men) thought about “aggressive women?” I also wanted to know what your definition and perception of an “aggressive woman” is.
So I recently came across this picture on Instagram, I attached it to this post.The picture is basically saying if a woman has a career, is God-fearing and focused she doesn’t need a man. I remember seeing this picture and asking my (now) ex-boyfriend how he felt about it. His response?
” If a woman has all these things, she doesn’t need a man, she wants a confidant “ …. Let’s soak that comment in.
I found the post and his comment extremely chauvinistic.
This is my position. I have always gotten off when people talk about business, career moves, and other professional ventures. I’ve always been that way, ever since I could remember. I remember being little and sitting in the bathroom and pretending that I was being interviewed by Oprah, discussing my latest accomplishments. I’ve always been a little crazy, but we will save that conversation for another post.
Some women are driven by love, some are driven by their careers. Some women are driven by both. You can have it all, I hate when people make it sound like you can have one or the other. The people who say that type of slander are the people who probably failed at both. Smh. WE CAN HAVE IT ALL LADIES!!!!
I’ve always known I was going to be a career woman. Even as a child, I knew I wanted to take over. I’ve always wanted to be my own boss, and build some sort of empire. Why have a column in a magazine when you can be Editor-in-Chief? If you are going to design clothes, have your own clothing line. If you are going to work…become the CEO. Thats always been my mindset. If you are going to do it, be the best at it and be on top. I’m working on building my brand now, and I am very aggressive about it. I make numerous calls throughout the day, I’m assertive, and if I have to be matter of fact… then shall be it. At the end of the day a job needs to be done and it is my duty to make sure that the finished products are seen through. I live my business life by the 3 P’s …. “Keep it pleasant, keep it polite and keep it professional.”
Because I possess these qualities does this make me less desirable? I don’t think so.
My parents raised me to be self-sufficient, and to be fully capable of taking care of myself. Regardless if I have a man or not, my bills will be paid, car will be running, and I will continue to be well put together and polished.
Theres nothing wrong with being educated, spiritual and having a career. Men are self-sufficient and still need a significant other. Women can be self-sufficient, and still need the company and love of a significant other. I believe that everyone should be able to take care of themselves, and have the support of a counterpart. We should all be fully capable of bringing something to the table. I’ve seen first hand what being dependent on someone else can do to a person in a relationship. When my parents split, my mother kind of had to start over and it was hard to watch. Yes it was difficult to watch, but it was a learning lesson. It was then that I decided how I was going to grow up and be… and if I have children I will raise my daughters to be just as self-sufficient and independent as my sons.
There is nothing wrong with being assertive and aggressive. In my opinion those qualities fall under being self-sufficient. One needs to be self-sufficient to survive. I want to know how you all feel about the image in this post. Is there such a thing as being overly aggressive? Or is it just the life long stereotypes?
Aggression or Self Sufficient.
Is there a difference? Or are they one in the same?