I love reading a great article to get you motivated and inspired for the week to come. Today I want to share something I read over at http://www.refinery29.com . The article is titled, “10 Things Not to Say at Work.”
I really appreciated this article because I noticed a few of the “things not to say at work” are or have been things I’ve said at work. The new year is right around the corner. Literally we have about 3 days . Every year calls for a better, improved you. Why not start with your career? As a woman, we should make our presence known when walking into a room and work on owning our thoughts, ideas, and feedback with confidence. Here are the seven phrases that stuck out to me the most.
- Does that make sense?
Many women end their statements with, “Does that make sense?” or “Do you know what I mean?”
We do this because we want to make sure we were understood, but this phrasing suggests you think you were incoherent. Instead, ask your audience, “What are your thoughts?” or say, “Let me know if you have questions about this” instead of the undermining, “Did that make sense?”
“I just want to check in and see” … “I’m just concerned that…”
We insert “just” because we’re worried about coming on too strong, but they make the speaker sound defensive. In my opinion it comes off a tad bit weak. Drop the word. You “JUST” don’t need it. Simple as that.
- Just a minute and Just a little bit
“I’d like to take just a few minutes of your time” or “I’d like to tell you a little bit about our new product.”
Sure, be efficient and succinct — and don’t take up more time than you need — but drop the apologetic words about infringing on another person’s time.You have something wonderful to say! Say it girl! What you have to share is important and worthwhile; convey that.
- Sorry, but …
“Sorry to bother you but…” “Sorry if this is a silly question, but…”
DO NOT apologize for talking, or for having something to say. That’s ridiculous.
- Undermining qualifiers
“I’m just thinking off the top of my head, but…” or “You all have been thinking about this a lot longer than I have, but…” or “I’m no expert, but…”
By leading your statement with this, you are kind of insinuating what you are about to say is likely to be wrong. If you don’t believe in your credibility, why should someone else? Lead with confidence in the knowledge that your ideas and insights matter.
- Rushing and piling on the words
When we don’t feel we have the right to take up space in a meeting or conversation, we tend to rush through our words. We also tend to pile up phrases into one long string — instead of using concise sentences with clear endings. Short sentences and brief pauses between those sentences connote confidence and sense of comfort in the role of speaker. They also allow the listener to absorb what you are saying and give you a moment to gather a deep breath and collect your thoughts. Punctuate and pause.
- Shrinking your space
This isn’t about speech patterns, this is about PRESENCE! We all know that your presence does change the way people react to what you’re saying. Notice if the way you sit or stand shrinks the amount of physical space you are taking up, that conveys lack of confidence. Take up room, uncross your hands or arms, sit tall, hold your head up, and make eye contact. There is nothing wrong with making sure you are noticed.
For the full article visit the Refinery29 site here : http://www.refinery29.com/2013/10/55289/uptalk-communication-mistakes
***image and article courtesy of Refinery29***
Do you agree with the article?
Which one of these “10 Things Not To Say At Work” will you be working on in 2015?